Before anyone starts asking why am I giving marriage advice, I must say this applies very much to tech and startup life-style!
Anyway, the secret to a happy marriage is to share less!
Let me explain by this transcript of a conversation we had Friday night. For context purposes, I have 5 logos for the Seattle 2.0 blog that I wanted some help deciding, so I showed her the logos...
Me: Which of these logos do you like best? Her: What's that? Me: What? Her: Why there is a "2.0" after the word Seattle? -- Note: she is in tech as well. Me: What? Her: What does "Seattle 2.0" means? What is it? Me: [laughing] You have no idea of what I do for a living, do you?
When I compare us to other couples that we know, and not that is any indication of happiness, we noticed that we rarely talk on the phone. We mostly exchange emails, once or twice a day. And when we get home and go into the "how's your day" routine, none of us ramble for 15 minutes explaining little details of our boring day -- no matter how exciting a news is for you, it'll be an order of magnitude less exciting for anyone else.
There you have it, my wife doesn't even know I run one of the most popular blogs for tech startups in Seattle!
And just to avoid any "funny" comments, my wife does know I quit Microsoft and I have a Startup. I told her last month.
Dear Marcelo, maybe you have another secret too: I currently live in Italy, but I am moving in another country in Europe, and my girlfriend will not follow me any soon. What is a good rule to "manage" this relationship? Do you have any suggestion? We're both in the tech industry too :-)
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that I wanted some help deciding, so I showed her the logos...
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June, 2006